Everything is so beautiful when you stop looking for flaws. How do you learn to stop seeing flaws? Try my three steps:
(1) The first step to seeing the beauty is to consciously "stop looking" for flaws. Be aware that you're doing it and stop yourself.
(2) The second step occurs naturally after the first. After weeks or months (or possibly even years) of being aware of what you've been doing, one day you'll notice that you no longer have to "consciously" stop looking for flaws -- you'll just start to catch yourself noticing flaws and can immediately correct your thought process.
(3) The third step is the most beautiful -- it's when you reach a point on your spiritual path where you suddenly stop *NOTICING* flaws in yourself and others.
By Step 3, you've risen above noticing people for what you dislike about them and you begin to replace that "noticing of flaws" attitude for a "seeing only their goodness." There is incredible freedom when you stop beating yourself up over your flaws. Even more freedom when you apply that same love to others and their flaws.
We *all* have flaws. Flaws are surmountable. Flaws help build character. However, flaws do not *define* us completely, they are only an aspect of us. We are all God's children, part of the oneness, and part of the divine in our own right.
Love yourself. Love others. Be extra kind to someone today. — Much love, Amara